Wednesday, June 30, 2010



I have had an interesting few days in my "Fish out of water experience." Hanging out with the family that Dave practically lives with during the week. Seeing him more open than I have ever really ever seen him. Feeling a little like not talking cuz I don't know what to say. Amazing people. They don't know me ... yet ...

So I turn to their daughter, a fun but challenged 20 year old. Manic-Depressant in the extreme manic stage right now. She is my friend. Fun to hang out with. She does all the talking and I just listen to Lady Gaga with her...she likes me cuz I listen. She took me on an adventure today. Here's a cute picture of her:


I want to learn Spanish. I want to be able to communicate with these people. I know a lot, but I confuse it with French a lot so I have to think way more than I should. I feel a part of me coming alive as I remember how much I love to learn languages. I thought French would be my first to be fluent in, but with the turn of events in our life these days, it seems Spanish might be it.

We went to dinner, right on the beach, with the Brent and Linda and some of their friends. They are really great people! They live her in Cabo...he was just released as Stake President here in Cabo.


My words don't match my thoughts. But I wanted to put them down...

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4 comments:

Jennifer said...

AIGH!!!! I just left a super long comment and when I hit "publish" I got an error. UG.

Well... what I said was that I am glad that you have some time right now to be thinking things through. I have been thinking about you since I read your blog yesterday. I'm glad that you're seeing Dave so open and everything. Hope you're having fun. I agree with what you said yesterday about keeping a good connection with Dave. I'd highly recommend a date night. It has been awesome for us--just an hour or two to spend some time alone, decompress, talk about whatever's on our minds without being interrupted. We usually go out to dinner, but we've gone out for dessert or on walks or whatever, too. Anyway, it's been really good for us. Also, I have been thinking about what you said about going back to school. If you're just nervous, that's one thing (which I can totally understand), but it's also possible that things have changed for you in the last 18 years. When I first had kids, I had this whole list of things I wanted to do when they were all in school and time was my own again. I always thought I'd go back to work when my kids were all in school (my youngest goes into first grade this fall, too), and now that the time has come, I find that after 15 years I don't really want what I thought I'd want. In 15 years, I've actually developed other talents and discovered other things about myself that I think I'd like to do. So anyway, I'm just saying that if you don't WANT to go back to school, you shouldn't feel like you need to just because you said you "would." (That said, though, it sounds like you would really enjoy school, and especially languages. That is clearly a talent you have! And a gift.) But anyway, it's fair to reevaluate what you want. Do something you love. Do something that will make you happy and whole. (Of course, knowing what that is can be the hard part.) I'm glad you're having some time to think about it right now in Cabo. It's a good thing. :)

Jennifer said...

AIGH!!!! I just left a super long comment and when I hit "publish" I got an error. UG.

Well... what I said was that I am glad that you have some time right now to be thinking things through. I have been thinking about you since I read your blog yesterday. I'm glad that you're seeing Dave so open and everything. Hope you're having fun. I agree with what you said yesterday about keeping a good connection with Dave. I'd highly recommend a date night. It has been awesome for us--just an hour or two to spend some time alone, decompress, talk about whatever's on our minds without being interrupted. We usually go out to dinner, but we've gone out for dessert or on walks or whatever, too. Anyway, it's been really good for us. Also, I have been thinking about what you said about going back to school. If you're just nervous, that's one thing (which I can totally understand), but it's also possible that things have changed for you in the last 18 years. When I first had kids, I had this whole list of things I wanted to do when they were all in school and time was my own again. I always thought I'd go back to work when my kids were all in school (my youngest goes into first grade this fall, too), and now that the time has come, I find that after 15 years I don't really want what I thought I'd want. In 15 years, I've actually developed other talents and discovered other things about myself that I think I'd like to do. So anyway, I'm just saying that if you don't WANT to go back to school, you shouldn't feel like you need to just because you said you "would." (That said, though, it sounds like you would really enjoy school, and especially languages. That is clearly a talent you have! And a gift.) But anyway, it's fair to reevaluate what you want. Do something you love. Do something that will make you happy and whole. (Of course, knowing what that is can be the hard part.) I'm glad you're having some time to think about it right now in Cabo. It's a good thing. :)

CaryMac said...

Yep, Jen, you're right. Knowing is the hard part! :) I just read thru this post and it sounds depressing. It's just me in my contemplative state... :)

I really do want to go to school. Where to re-start? Not sure. Maybe a Spanish class...maybe a voice class...maybe finish my generals (which sounds blah so maybe not. ha ha)

Thanks for being the answer to my sounding board...it's nice to have someone to chat with.

Dave is too focused to talk about much else than his business... He is a super focuser--and I'm ADD! HA!

Jennifer said...

No, no, it didn't sound depressing. (And sorry that my last one posted twice. Stupid computer.) It just sounded like you're thinking out loud. I'm the same way. I didn't think you were sad, but... well, I've just known you for a long time! :) I just know you're thinking. :) And it's just a really interesting thing to consider about yourself when you reach this point--where you have time to do what YOU want. For the first time in umpteen years. So I will be excited to find out what you come up with. Heck, I'll be excited to find out what *I* come up with!! ha ha :) I have always said I wanted to sign again, so we'll see where I go from here... Keep your blog posts coming... :)